Alhamdulillah I just gave birth to my second born, a baby girl this time around. Let’s call her MeiMei.
As posted before, I was rather upset when I had to do emergency csect for BBoss in 2017. So when I got preggy this time, my dream was to try for a vaginal birth after csect (VBAC).
To prep for the VBAC, I engaged Doula S (she comes with support from Doula F) and attended birth classes. Also changed my hosp and got DrC. MrF went along with all my plans cos he saw how much I wanted a VBAC and to save himself $12k lol
I didn’t exactly follow the healthy lifestyle that was advised by the doulas though. So hard to resist cakes, teh tarik and segala…. serve me right la. I kept falling sick throughout the pregnancy. I had cough for few months. Even lost my voice twice. Flu till week 39. Omg.
Anyway here’s the labour story:
28 Jan, 3am. My water bag started leaking. In my head I was like, “oh crap. Again water bag goes first. Let’s hope contractions start soon.” From what I learnt from the birth classes, I know I have 48h before I have to admit myself to hospital. As a previous csect patient, I can’t take induced meds so I must try my best to have contractions naturally.
MrF took urgent leave to be around. I walked, I squatted, I climbed stairs, I drank concentrated raspberry leaf tea, I tried so many ways to induce naturally for the whole day. Was in close contact with my doulas via WhatsApp. Still nothing happened. Only told my sisters and my mom about what’s going on cos I was scared to involve a lot of people.
29 Jan, 8am. Getting worried cos deadline is near. Went to Doula F’s house and she said my baby’s position still high and water bag broke early cos of my flu. Doula F said luckily I have signs that I’ve dilated and my body still remembered my previous labour. Got chance that the moment I start active labouring, it’ll be a fast one. My problem is to jump start that labour. She helped me loosen my ligaments, realigned baby’s position and massaged (acupressure) all the induction points.
After that, MrF and I walked for more than 10km and went Seoul Garden for lunch date. All the while BBoss in childcare.
29 Jan, 7pm. Kinda resigned to go thru a csect at this moment. While resting on bed, my mom and MrF took turns to do acupressure on me. I was so relieved when I felt the jump start (mcm kereta eh lol) of contractions whenever they pressed the induction points. Oh by the way, I’ve been smelling and putting on Clary Sage essential oil the whole day. Doulas told me that this is an induction oil.
30 Jan, 1am. Contractions started. As the surges came, I tried to find positions to make it better. I was quite unsure – what if I made myself comfortable and then the surges stop? Or will the comfortable positions make the surges come even more? So worried that contractions will stop (typical of vbac moms) but luckily they didn’t!
Best position for me – to stand and sway and be on my own. So I “solo danced” from 1-5am in a semi dark room. All the while doulas were on WhatsApp with me. I seriously wonder how they kept awake as they waited for my random updates. I let MrF sleep and handle BBoss as BBoss still wakes up at night. I also know I will be irritable when I have someone physically near me. So it’s better for doulas to be on WhatsApp and for MrF to sleep.
30 Jan, 5am. My contractions were 1min long and coming every 3-5min. Doula S said to meet at NUH ASAP. Woke MrF up, did a quick shower and off we went. Longest car ride ever. Was squatting on the car seat throughout the ride. Thank God that traffic was super smooth (duh 5+am right lol)
30 Jan, 615am. Reached NUH, did our subuh. Wow my solat I had one contraction. Nasib ada wall beside me. Then we walked around a bit. I kept stopping to hold the wall and sway my hip at each surge. People kept asking if we needed help. My contractions came every 1-2 min but Doula S was kinda unsure whether it was time to admit cos I can still talk and joke. I told her I’m trying to distract myself from the pain.
30 Jan, 7am. Admitted to Delivery Suite Ward 22. Really like the group of nurses who handled me. I cried when I reached the suite cos I saw BEDS! In my head I was thinking I can’t go on one (phobia from previous KK experience). This is why I chose NUH – NUH nurses didn’t force me to go on the bed! They let me be anywhere and everywhere I wanted. They said GENTLY AND PATIENTLY to me just be on the bed for 1min WHENEVER IM READY to do quick VE and that’s it. I was checked and I was 8cm dilated. Hooray!
I was everywhere – bath tub with hot shower, birthing stool, standing by the bed side, swaying with MrF, squatting with MrF. NUH WAS SO AWESOME THAT WAY! I got the freedom to do anything I wanted. They even made the room dark for me and allowed me to use diffuser. Btw, NUH also provides diffuser if u ask but we were not sure of the condition so we brought ours.
30 Jan, 1003am. True enough it’s considered relatively short active labour. Final position – ironically was on the BED and on my BACK! Lol. That’s how MeiMei came out.
Alhamdulillah, MeiMei came out healthy. I was alright too. Everyone in my room was so high from this achievement. Seriously a wow moment in my life.
I’m sure my mama was proud of me haha cos I wasn’t such a crazy woman during labour. MrF said it was kinda hilarious at some points cos I was trying different tones to push MeiMei out. I kept using the word “Allah” – he said it was sometimes high pitch sometimes low pitch deep male voice. Probably a sign that MeiMei is going to be a good singer in future even though the Mama is tone deaf lol.